Mirroring in Relationships

Michelle Lynn (HSP SOS)

Making the Invisible Visible

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Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others. -Jonathan Swift

We had been together for almost six years that rainy November afternoon he pulled the car off to the side of the road and began weeping uncontrollably.  I had known for over a year that things had gone off course, and the man that once looked at me with love and admiration could no longer look me in the eyes, let alone have a meaningful conversation.  This sudden stop and outburst were completely out of his character, so I sat quietly waiting for him to speak.  He wanted to tell me that he had been lying about going to grad school for the past three months.  He had dropped out of class, but he couldn’t tell me.  He knew I would overreact and be disappointed.  It didn’t upset me that he had dropped out of school.  It didn’t matter to me what he ended up doing professionally.  I was more upset that he felt like I wouldn’t understand his decision, or that I would in some way think less of him for this decision.  The conversation continued, and it ended with him telling me that our relationship was the very reason he didn’t want to become a psychologist anymore.  He couldn’t imagine having conversations as emotionally intense as ours everyday for the rest of his life.  It was at this moment, he also stated a need for a separation.  I was just too much for him to deal with.  I was blindsided by the reason of the breakup, but not so much the breakup in itself.  I was surprised at how angry he was at me for a disappointment I had never expressed and that he never even gave me a chance to explain my actual thoughts.

Later that evening, I stood for three and a half hours staring at myself in the bathroom mirror.  This was my first major heartbreak, and I was having a difficult time making sense of what I had done wrong.  I felt completely misunderstood and voiceless in the final outcome, and I could not fully process the hurt.  Standing there on chipped linoleum, I wanted to look into myself.  I wanted to understand myself, see myself as others saw me, and hopefully identify what it was about me that made people always want to escape me.  I stared so long that I could no longer distinguish the individual features that formed my appearance.  I don’t know what I was waiting for, or what I wanted to happen, but after gazing at my reflection for over three hours, all I felt was invisible.  Continuing to look at myself in the mirror could not remedy my confusion one bit, so I stopped. 

That was over two decades ago, and I’d like to say that was the only time I found myself so lost in a relationship, but it was actually only the start.  I have noticed a pattern of people enjoying certain aspects of my personality initially, but growing tired of my intensity over time.  I have experienced more than one person telling me that he loves me more than he has ever loved anyone else in his entire life, but I am probably better off with someone else.  I have been told that I am angry, disappointed, jealous, bitter, resentful, judgmental, too demanding, too intense, unstable, and self-centered from the same people that tout me as the most understanding, loving person they have ever met.  Sometimes these mismatched descriptors come within minutes of one another, and I am always left at that point where I am standing alone staring at myself in the bathroom mirror wondering if I really am this difficult to love.

I am not writing this to air my dirty laundry as a forlorn lover.  I am writing this to reach out to other HSPs, INFJs, or empaths that might have ever felt this way in relationships themselves.  I inadvertently came across something not long ago that helped me understand what might be going on a little more clearly.  It helped me feel a little less unlovable, so I want to share that feeling among friends.

A shift in perspective occurred when I came across two images I found while talking in various groups online.  One said, intuitives are like mirrors that people can’t bear to look into too long, and the other said INFJ love story?  Everyone will hurt you. My response was less than enthusiastic at first, because let’s be honest, sometimes the truth hurts.  The everyone hurts you comment seemed like a harsh reality I wasn’t quite ready to accept, and the being a mirror concept was one I had to toss around in my mind a bit before fully grasping what it fully meant.

Over the next couple of months, the pieces of my past began to fall into place, and both phrases began to make sense.  The premise of the conversations where these images were originally posted was that people love highly intuitive and emotional people intensely, but because we are so good at unearthing what is holding people back, and exposing it, we become too much for people close to us to cope with at times.  We become a mirror, and people cannot look at us without seeing a reflection of themselves.  Our personality type does not necessarily focus on negative aspects and draw them out of people, which is why people are drawn to us initially.  We always start by illuminating the good, because we see the beauty in people when we first meet them.  If they are down on themselves, we reflect back what is good about them.  Over time, and repeated exposures to the mirror, however, we get a glimpse into the onlooker’s eyes and what is causing them to see themselves in a negative light.  With strengths, we see weaknesses.  A mirror is honest.  If you have a blemish, the mirror reflects it.  The mirror doesn’t tell you that the pimple is ugly, but you might make that connection and begin to feel self-conscious upon seeing it.  You might then choose to avoid looking at yourself in mirrors for the day or longer until the image of the imperfection has faded from your mind. 

That analogy for me explains everything I have ever misunderstood in every relationship I have ever had, including the one with my own mother.  There was a time, for example, when my mother had been drinking too much, and without me saying a word, she knew I was aware of what she had been doing behind everyone’s back.  She looked at me and said, “I will be so happy when you get out of my hair next week, so I don’t have to keep being judged by you.”  I wasn’t judging her.  I was actually keeping quiet, because I could sense the severity of the situation for everyone involved.  She, however, was judging herself in that moment.  My silent, reflective eyes produced so much shame that all she could do was lash out at me, but really it was the reflection of herself that upset her the most.  At the time, I hurt so much that I sobbed for days.  I was about to move out of my childhood home of 22 years, and those were her parting words.  I have always had this sense of people being relieved when away from me, which is a big part of why I keep my distant until I am sure people are ready for me. 

I have a history of mismatched experiences and emotions with the people I love.  When I get really close to people, they are forced to look at themselves more than they would like to I guess.  They in a sense, are being forced into a relationship with themselves by me, because I have a way of seeing the less visible aspects of most people’s personalities.  I consciously, and sometimes unconsciously, bring the invisible to the surface.  It is as if I am standing there holding up a mirror, forcing them to look at themselves, refusing to tell them what to do, trying to be supportive and understanding, and the reactions aren’t always what I expect.  I guess that’s because I am still thinking in terms of their reactions in relationship to me.  When someone I love tells me that they need time away from me, that can be a hard pill to swallow.  I dislike that I cause people I care about such distress, even if I know it is what needs to happen for them to grow. 

I have tried to be less intense or real, but telling that to someone like me is like telling water not to be wet.  You can throw a towel over everything to hide, or dry off the situation, but everything is going to get absorbed eventually.  Does this mean that I can never have a meaningful relationship with another person, or that I am better off from a distance?  No, but that does explain why I am cautious with my feelings and sometimes build walls.  It’s not just to protect myself, but many times it is to protect everyone else around me.  Will everyone hurt me?  Probably yes, but that’s because people respond unpredictably sometimes to being exposed to what they have worked hard to keep hidden.  I think the hardest thing for me is when someone leaves me, or thinks I am better off without them, because they believe they are hurting me.  I am just holding the mirror, but I see the hurt in others.  When they leave me, I feel like they are leaving at the most crucial moment of their healing, so I become desperate to bring them back to the mirror. 

I have to realize, however, that everyone needs to heal at their own pace.  I am used to holding hurt, and I recognize the interconnected relationship between hurting and healing.  It can be scary, and I have to remember that for the people I care about.  I have to work harder at helping myself, as well as my loved ones, to see where they end and I begin.  There is someone standing behind this mirror, and that’s the person I want people to ultimately see.  I think deep down that’s what every INFJ, HSP, or empath wants, someone to really see them.  People do see me sometimes, and I think when they do, they realize what’s been going on.  They do start to see their own parts, as well as the parts that have all along been mine.  Perhaps this is why, every time a relationship has ended for me I’ve been told that I’m better off without that other person in my life.  When I hear that, I hurt, because I don’t honestly feel that way myself.  While I hold other people’s pain sometimes, I rarely keep it as my own.  The hurt isn’t from what that person thinks he has inflicted upon me.  The hurt is that this person can’t recognize how much I have learned and enjoyed our experiences together.  How much I value the light, as well as the dark.

A person really close to me once explained why sad songs are the most beautiful, and that was one of the first times I ever felt like someone could reflect something of myself back to me.  Hurt is acknowledgment, concern, and care for how things should or should not be in this world.  Even when people are hurting, and they choose things you do not agree with out of love for you, or themselves, that is far better than apathy.  Every hurt has taught me a great deal about myself, as well as forced me to continue along my path of healing.   As an INFJ everyone I love hurts me, but everyone I have ever loved has also helped to heal me.

Author, Michelle Lynn, is a podcaster on The Captain’s Pod, and she creates content specifically for HSP’s, empaths, introverts, INFJ’s, and Myers-Briggs enthusiasts.  Her weekly podcast, HSP S.O.S. (Highly Sensitive Persons Supporting Our Sensitivity), can be found on The Captain’s Pod website, The HSP SOS website, and Facebook. Also connect with her on Twitter @hsp_sos.

To Love an Empath

Michelle Lynn (HSP SOS)

If You Love an Empath, Know This

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Author, Michelle Lynn, is a podcaster on The Captain’s Pod, and she creates content specifically for HSP’s, empaths, introverts, INFJ’s, and Myers-Briggs enthusiasts.  Her weekly podcast, HSP S.O.S. (Highly Sensitive Persons Supporting Our Sensitivity), can be found on The Captain’s Pod website, The HSP SOS website,  and  Facebook. Also connect with her on Twitter @hsp_sos .

I Will Rain On Your Parade

Michelle Lynn (HSP SOS)

-A definite promise from your loving HSP, empath, and INFJ-

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Whether you are a highly sensitive person, empath, or INFJ, I am sure you have all been told to “lighten up” from time to time.  Well, I am all of those things, so I’m just going to go ahead and warn you up front to multiply that by three.  Intense is an understatement!  I haven’t decided yet if I am poisonous or contagious, but I do know I can definitely “rain on a parade” more often than I’d like to admit.

Now, I’m not a depressed person.  I would say that I am very much the opposite of that.  I am an idealist, and I believe in love and happiness.  I wake up each morning as sunshine, ready to take on the world.  I think about how I can make the world a better place.  I’ve even been accused of being all rainbows, unicorns, and pixie dust at times.  I’ve been likened to a magical character that couldn’t possibly exist in the “real” world.  Some of these comments have been made in awe, and at other times, they have been made in disgust.  I do not become bitter or change my ways. I keep on believing in beautiful outcomes in spite of the evidence before me.

That being said, however, I am also a realist.  I am on a path of constant evolution, and I admit to being a bit of a perfectionist.  I don’t cringe at the idea of perfectionism like so many people do, because my brain doesn’t comprehend settling for less before you even try for the best.  This is where I start to lose people I think.  I am always trying to perfect things- living spaces, situations, people, myself, and even moments.  I am not afraid of hard work.  I think INFJ’s are born wearing work gloves.  Activities and conversations that end in evolution and understanding energize me, but I understand how these types of conversations are often exhausting for others.  

Where other people are content, I am always looking for more.  

I’m going to leave that sentence right there.  I am just going to let it sit there all alone and reflect on itself for a while, because that’s the core of everything people don’t get  or dislike about me.  That right there is the reason many of my relationships and friendships have ended.  I know I make people feel bad or inadequate.  I know that I can take their happy moment and suck all the joy out of it by mentioning what I perceive as an obvious truth. The difference between me and other people, however, is that I am not being critical in my mind.  I am being analytical.  I am being analytical with the intent to propel everything around me to absolute greatness.  What I am learning the hard way, however, is that people don’t always want that.  Sometimes it just makes people feel like they aren’t good enough, or that I am not satisfied with what is right in front of me.  This also is the furthest thing from the truth, and it makes me very upset when my words or actions leave people feeling this way.  I HATE raining on anyone’s parade.  It is never my intent, and I often get surprised by people’s reactions to my well meaning intentions.

Maybe this misunderstanding happens, because I don’t see the world as good or bad.  I see the world as being in a state of constant change.  If something isn’t right, then let’s work on making it right.  I look at life through the lens of development.  I am the most analytical with the people closest to me, because they are the ones I want to propel to ultimate greatness above anything else.  It’s not that I don’t like them as they are right now.  I absolutely adore them right now.  I didn’t dislike my daughter when she couldn’t feed herself or go to the bathroom on her own.  I adored her, but I still helped her learn how to take the best care of herself.  I didn’t love her less back then or more now.  I just love like I always love, and I never think of it in any other way.

I take the whole work in progress concept very seriously.  I live by it.  I don’t get upset with people when they aren’t being their best.  I easily forgive, and I do not judge.  I will, however, probably state the very obvious fact you don’t need (or want) to hear right at the moment you least want (but maybe need) to hear it.  Again, I am a bit of a storm cloud.  Just like a storm cloud, as heat and energy gets released into the atmosphere, I swell.  In my attempts to force something to rise, something else falls, and through this instability, I often create quite a storm.

I have watched the storms build over the years, and I have grown much better at tempering myself in order to prevent their intensity.  A delayed storm, however, is still a storm, and the rainy season always returns.  I don’t mind the rainy season as much as those around me do, because I see the big picture.  I don’t mind enduring thunder and lightning to nourish the flowers.  I see it as the laws of nature, a natural process of the universe.  I know though that everyday can’t be thunderstorms.  I am not writing this to give highly sensitive people, empaths, or INFJs permission to jab a lightening bolt into the hearts of everyone they meet.  I am writing this in an attempt to let people understand the “science” behind our intensity.  I am writing this to remind people of all of the beauty that grows out of thunderstorms.  

Yes, I am a thundercloud.  

I can be frightening, but I am also nourishing.  I may storm, but it is never meant to ruin anyone’s parade.  That is my promise.

Author, Michelle Lynn, is a podcaster on The Captain’s Pod, and she creates content specifically for HSP’s, empaths, introverts, INFJ’s, and Myers-Briggs enthusiasts.  Her weekly podcast, HSP S.O.S. (Highly Sensitive Persons Supporting Our Sensitivity), can be found on The Captain’s Pod website, The HSP SOS website,  and  Facebook. Also connect with her on Twitter @hsp_sos .

To All the Lonely HSPs

Michelle Lynn (HSP SOS)

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Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.
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I am a highly sensitive person, and I am lonely a good portion of the time.  I recently talked about loneliness on my podcast HSP SOS #29 “I Feel Lonely”, and it has become abundantly clear that my loneliness stems not from a lack of people in my life, but from a lack of understanding.  I came to this epiphany through a mindfulness activity where I listed anything I could think of that made me feel lonely.  It was difficult at first, but once I was done, I felt as though I had rediscovered a piece of myself, and in talking about my loneliness with other highly sensitive people I also discovered that I am not alone in feeling this way.  Many HSPs enjoy solitude.  It is the judgement, criticism, and misunderstanding of their nature that makes them feel alone.  In an effort to remind other HSPs that they are not alone, I am sharing what makes me feel lonely here.
I feel lonely when…
  • I feel lonely when… people misinterpret my intentions, or tell me they do not believe me when I tell them that is not what I meant.
  • I feel lonely when… I want to talk about my troubles with a loved one, but I can’t.  I worry how my sad news will impact them, so I don’t say what is on my mind.
  • I feel lonely when… I  get really upset about corruption, injustice, violence, or prejudice- and everyone around me thinks I am being too intense.
  • I feel lonely when… my mood is different from everyone else around me.  If I am at a party, and everyone else is laughing and having a good time, then I feel like my presence is just going to bring everyone down.
  • I feel lonely when… people stop talking to me, because they are mad at someone I associate with.
  • I feel lonely when… I am passionate about an idea, project, or cause, and no one around me seems as interested or excited.
  • I feel lonely when… people keep information from me, because they worry I am going to get emotional or “overreact”.
  • I feel lonely when …I know I am being misunderstood and I try to explain myself, and the other person says they don’t want to talk about it.  They tell me I need to stop bringing up the past and just “get over it.”
  • I feel lonely when… I don’t find a sarcastic joke funny or enjoy teasing, and I am told to lighten up.
  • I feel lonely when… people call me needy or codependent thinking I constantly need to be in contact with people, when all I really want is to be acknowledged and accurately heard.

So yeah, my conclusion for me is that I do not feel lonely in the absence of people.  I enjoy alone time and solitude.  I feel lonely in the presence of people who misunderstand me.  To me that is the epitome of feeling alone.

Author, Michelle Lynn, is a podcaster on The Captain’s Pod, and she creates content specifically for HSP’s, empaths, introverts, INFJ’s, and Myers-Briggs enthusiasts.  Her weekly podcast, HSP S.O.S. (Highly Sensitive Persons Supporting Our Sensitivity), can be found on The Captain’s Pod website, The HSP SOS website,  and  Facebook. Also connect with her on Twitter @hsp_sos .

Feeling Blue?

Michelle Lynn (HSP SOS)

Here’s a little graphic to remind yourself of what you can do when you are feeling a bit blue!  

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Author, Michelle Lynn, is a podcaster on The Captain’s Pod, and she creates content specifically for HSP’s, empaths, introverts, INFJ’s, and Myers-Briggs enthusiasts.  Her weekly podcast, HSP S.O.S. (Highly Sensitive Persons Supporting Our Sensitivity), can be found on The Captain’s Pod website, The HSP SOS website,  and  Facebook. Also connect with her on Twitter @hsp_sos .

Highly Sensitive Superheroes

Michelle Lynn (HSP SOS)

Can Superheroes Help “Save the Day” for HSPs and Empaths?

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Listen to HSP S.O.S Episode #4- Sensitive Superheroes 

 

In 2002, I went to an afternoon matinee to see The Powerpuff Girls.  I was in my twenties.  I had no children, and I was possibly the only adult in there of my own free will.  It wasn’t that I was a huge superhero fan, or comic book aficionado.  I was never really that into the genre growing up, but something about Blossom, Buttercup, and Bubbles captured my heart. The little girl superheroes created from sugar, spice, and Chemical X were cute and complex.  Each character brought a different personality trait to the mix, which helped formulate a powerhouse of smarts, sensitivity, and sass.  When asked, I could never answer which one was my favorite, because I needed all three of them.

As a young girl growing up in the era of excessive consumerism and exaggerated female beauty standards, I often felt fragmented.  I felt like I had all these different aspects of my personality that helped form my identity, but I didn’t know when to be smart, or when to be sensitive, or when to stand my ground and fight back.  I love that The Powerpuff Girls are unapologetically themselves. They are by no means perfect.  They sometimes get a bit too carried away and inadvertently destroy sections of Townsville.  Even after botched communication, bouts of anger, and explosive meltdowns, however, the community still loves The Powerpuff Girls.

Subconsciously, this type of unconditional love is perhaps what drew me to their story in the first place.  I have struggled with my own identity as a highly sensitive, introverted young woman over the years.  I have always longed for a world that could accept all facets of my personality.  I have always wanted the freedom to make mistakes, have meltdowns, mess up and still trust that I would be loved.  

You might be thinking that all of this is just a little too deep for a show with pigtailed crusaders and talking monkey supervillans.  This analytical approach, however, is not a new concept.  Analyzing comic book characters, and hero archetypes, falls within the area of something called Superhero Therapy.  I first learned about Superhero Therapy when researching for HSP S.O.S. episode #4 Sensitive Superheroes.  In that podcast, I featured the work of a clinical psychologist named Dr. Janina Scarlet.  A therapist, author, and speaker, Dr. Scarlet uses superheroes and their stories to help her clients.  Much of her work centers around using stories to assist patients suffering from depression, anxiety, and PTSD.  Which completely makes sense, when you think about the parallels between some of your favorite superheroes and individuals coping with fears, phobias, and traumatic experiences.  I fell in love with the idea and her work months ago.  I haven’t stopped thinking about the concept of Superhero Therapy since that podcast.

My role on The Captain’s Pod is to produce episodes for HSP S.O.S. with Highly Sensitive Persons and emotional empaths in mind.  Sensory Processing Sensitivity is a trait, not a disorder.  According to the leading researcher on the topic, Dr. Elaine Aron, approximately 20% of the population has a sensitivity trait.  These individuals with this sensitivity trait process sensory data much deeper and more intensely than non-HSPs.  It can be very exhausting, and if individuals with highly sensitive nervous systems do not develop coping strategies to maintain balance, they can end up with a variety of mental health disorders like the ones Dr. Janina Scarlet treats.

The question I’ve been tossing around for a while now is can some superhero self-help be used preventatively for HSPs and emotional empaths?  It would seem that individuals with the sensitivity trait might relate to superheroes going through similar struggles.  Can superheroes help “save the day” for society’s most sensitive  souls?  What follows are some of my personal thoughts on how we as a community of HSPS and empaths might be able to adapt what Dr. Janina Scarlett does in her Superhero Therapy for our own purposes.  It’s a reflection on how superheroes can also benefit the 20% of the population needing a little extra support to achieve a sense of balance.

How Can Superhero Stories Help “Save the Day” for HSPs and Empaths?


  1. They provide examples of characters struggling with sensory overload and feelings of isolation. HSPs are capable of processing larger amounts of sensory information than non-HSPs.  They pick up on subtle cues in their environment and often experience over arousal, or sensory overload.  Some highly sensitive people are also emotional empaths, this means that they are so in-tune with their environment, and the energy around them, that they can actually sense and absorb the emotions of other people.  This heightened sensitivity often allows HSPs to understand or “read” people better, but it is also very draining.  Many individuals with sensory processing sensitivity end up needing breaks from people to recharge, but since empathetic individuals like to help and make other people happy, they don’t often take the best care of themselves.  This can lead to melt-downs, outbursts, and a sense of being misunderstood.  HSPs and empaths often feel like they are “weird” or that there is no one else quite like them.  You can’t always tell by looking at a person whether or not they are struggling with sensory overload, so superheroes like Marvel’s Matt Murdock (a.k.a. Daredevil) can really help make the invisible visible.  The characters that interact with Matt Murdock don’t always know just how much he is struggling to keep it together.  Because we are allowed inside the mind of this character, however, we can experience exactly what he goes through each day.  Just as Daredevil’s heightened senses are a strength for him, they are also his vulnerability.  If he is in an environment that contains too much noise, strong odors, or a lot of people, he struggles.  He may need to do something to dull his senses just to regain a bit of control over what is happening to him mentally and physically.  This is exactly how it is for HSPs and empaths, and it’s refreshing to see what sensitive individuals go through played out in comic books, movies, and television.

  2. They remind us that being self-aware is an important part of achieving and maintaining emotional balance. In the X-Men film series, Xavier’s School for Gifted Youngsters is a well known safe haven for mutants to train and learn to control their powers in order to get along better in the real world.  The first time I watched an X-Men movie, I found myself daydreaming and wishing there was a school like that for me to go to.  As a highly sensitive person and emotional empath, I have plenty of stories about letting myself get out of balance, exhausting myself, and exposing my vulnerability to the wrong people.  While you are born with the power of sensitivity, you aren’t born with the knowledge of how to manage and master this trait.  Maintaining emotional balance is a life-long battle for sensitive superheroes.  It is a topic that we address routinely on our podcast on episodes like HSP S.O.S. #22.  In this episode we discuss how HSPs and empaths often have unrealistic expectations of themselves.  Like the superheroes attending Xavier’s school, people that struggle with intense emotions are prone to outbursts of rage, intense sadness, and possible panic attacks.  HSPs have a strong sense of not wanting to hurt or burden the people they love, so they routinely suppress less desirable aspects of their identity.  Like we talk about in The Captain’s Pod Star Wars and The Shadow episode, ignoring “The Dark Side” only makes it stronger.  As do virtually all superheroes, HSPs and emotional empaths have to acknowledge and master their own shadows in order to achieve a strong sense of self-control and stability.

  3. They appeal to our empathetic nature and “save the world” mentality, while accurately portraying the level of self sacrifice and energy needed to live in this manner. For individuals that feel everything so deeply, spend a great deal of time in deep thought, and approach the world with a desire to make it better, it is easy to become disenfranchised with a seemingly apathetic and cruel world.  A superhero’s mission in life is to make sure that justice is served.  Stories allow us to see both the internal and external struggle of well-intentioned characters.  Complex superhero narratives will test the moral values of empathetic characters, much how society often tests its most sensitive citizens’ principles and standards.  HSPs and empaths recognize when something is not right in the world.  They have a hard time accepting things that go against their own code of ethics or doing something that they know will hurt another person. It is an exhausting aspect of the sensitive personality, and sensitive individuals do run the risk of feeling like life has given them an unfair hand.   It can be helpful in these instances to turn to fictional characters experiencing similar struggles.  Comic books, movies, and television shows are relatively short, which allows a reader to weigh the benefits and drawback of sacrificing one’s self for the greater good in a short period of time.  An HSP or empath struggling with whether or not to remain loyal to a profession that is compromising a personal belief system could, for example, take a look at Captain America in Marvel’s Civil War series.  Cap is being forced to make a decision to go along with people he has called friends a good portion of his life or go against his friends in the name of what he believes is just.  Seeing the negative and positive outcomes associated with a character’s course of action can assist HSPs and empaths as they start to assess what needs to be done in their own circumstances.  Rarely in superhero story lines do characters have easy decisions to make, so they are great models for real world issues as well. 

  4. They help us find people like us in the real world. Superhero stories are quite popular.  The comic book and superhero movie franchise is a multimillion dollar industry.  Needless to say, there are a lot of people out there that are connecting to these stories.  A few years ago, I never would have thought I would be so interested in the psychology of superheroes.  By taking a closer look at a genre I once overlooked, I have made many new fictional friends, as well as real friends.  There are plenty of social media sites devoted to superheroes and their fans.  People love analyzing characters and discussing their complexity, so it’s really easy to connect with like-minded people from the comfort of your own home.  Having people to talk to that share similar interests is something the highly sensitive desperately seek, and there is no better way to connect to people than through a shared interest.  

Superheroes come in many varieties these days, and it’s no surprise that the highly sensitive can find themselves reflected in these characters.  HSPs and emotional empaths have a lot in common with crusaders of compassion, and their stories have the power to connect, comfort, and challenge us on our journey towards emotional balance.

Author, Michelle Lynn, is a podcaster on The Captain’s Pod, and she creates content specifically for HSP’s, empaths, introverts, INFJ’s, and Myers-Briggs enthusiasts.  Her weekly podcast, HSP S.O.S. (Highly Sensitive Persons Supporting Our Sensitivity), can be found on The Captain’s Pod website, The HSP SOS website,  and  Facebook. Also connect with her on Twitter @hsp_sos .

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