Michelle Lynn (HSP SOS)
Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself. Life’s cruelest irony.–Douglas Coupland-
I feel lonely when…
- I feel lonely when… people misinterpret my intentions, or tell me they do not believe me when I tell them that is not what I meant.
- I feel lonely when… I want to talk about my troubles with a loved one, but I can’t. I worry how my sad news will impact them, so I don’t say what is on my mind.
- I feel lonely when… I get really upset about corruption, injustice, violence, or prejudice- and everyone around me thinks I am being too intense.
- I feel lonely when… my mood is different from everyone else around me. If I am at a party, and everyone else is laughing and having a good time, then I feel like my presence is just going to bring everyone down.
- I feel lonely when… people stop talking to me, because they are mad at someone I associate with.
- I feel lonely when… I am passionate about an idea, project, or cause, and no one around me seems as interested or excited.
- I feel lonely when… people keep information from me, because they worry I am going to get emotional or “overreact”.
- I feel lonely when …I know I am being misunderstood and I try to explain myself, and the other person says they don’t want to talk about it. They tell me I need to stop bringing up the past and just “get over it.”
- I feel lonely when… I don’t find a sarcastic joke funny or enjoy teasing, and I am told to lighten up.
- I feel lonely when… people call me needy or codependent thinking I constantly need to be in contact with people, when all I really want is to be acknowledged and accurately heard.
So yeah, my conclusion for me is that I do not feel lonely in the absence of people. I enjoy alone time and solitude. I feel lonely in the presence of people who misunderstand me. To me that is the epitome of feeling alone.
Author, Michelle Lynn, is a podcaster on The Captain’s Pod, and she creates content specifically for HSP’s, empaths, introverts, INFJ’s, and Myers-Briggs enthusiasts. Her weekly podcast, HSP S.O.S. (Highly Sensitive Persons Supporting Our Sensitivity), can be found on The Captain’s Pod website, The HSP SOS website, and Facebook. Also connect with her on Twitter @hsp_sos .